Sunday, February 9, 2014

Overcoming Obstacles



  Being in a household of 7 is tough, thankfully my father has always been a hard worker. He works long hours, but as you can imagine money gets tight. Retrospecting to as I was growing up; I still am. I remember having to wear the same clothes for days and only having 2 or 3 pairs of shoes,  I would get bullied for wearing the same clothes and scoffed at, this would make me really despondent and  be mad at my parents at the time blaming them it was their fault, this caused me to strongly dislike school I didn't want to be there. I was getting poor grades too, which was bad, and only affected me in the long run. I would always remember the mean things the other kids would say, and in lunch and recess I would hide out in the libraryAs you can imagine this means I wasn't a gregarious person but more reserved. The library was my sanctuary, full of knowledge and there was no one there most of the time. When I went to junior high my mother started working, therefore both my parents were working, this helped a lot more. I remember so clearly how my face would brighten whenever my parents said we could have an extra pair of shoes or clothes, having this was the biggest highlight of my days, not getting new toys, or anything similar to that. In junior high though, I made the wrong mistake of hanging out with what people call "the wrong crowd", and I was going down the wrong path, I didn't realize it then or even cared much of the situation, since I was just a dumb teenager. But my siblings would tell me to straighten up my act; especially my sister she is the eldest of us. She would constantly get in my face about the decisions I would make, how my parents were trying really hard for us, how I should take in consideration the things we had, and if I didn't thrive I would be in the same situation, plus a loser. I just thought she wanted to ruin my life and be an evil sister; now I retrospect and I know she was only trying to help. So with all the obstacles and challenges of my high school year starting from moving around schools and doing home schooling, I did overcome the years and I understood that if I didn't try I would not get anywhere. Moving around to 3 different schools sucked, but everyday I would look back to the years of wearing the same clothes and how we can barley make ends meet in our household and I thought to myself, "what am I doing?" I want something better, and I pushed myself to get to school, to pass my tests and turn in all my work, so that I can get that diploma, I graduated from high school and now I'm in my 3rd year of college and with the help of my husband, and family. I am getting by and doing what's best for all of us and most importantly MYSELF. I will achieve my goals, and I will keep moving forward.

4 comments:

  1. i cannot imagine wearing the same clothes and shoes for days and days, i'd be desperate for new stuff after a while. but it sounds like no one really accepted you for who you are. clothes don't define who you are as a person, what matters is that you are kind to others and accepting. i know how it feels though to be bullied, just know you have my support if you need anything. i'd be happy to help out the best i can!

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  2. living in a household of that many is always going to be hard because you don't receive the attention you want, but at the end, the less attention you receive, the more independent you can be.

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  3. I know how that feels being cramped up in one house is always hard. fighting for who get to shower first in the morning. or whenever someone needs to use the toilet. the struggle of a big family. but in the end it's nice cause it always a challenge. once you get through it, it's a nice feeling.

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  4. I know how it feel not being able to get new things because I live with a single mother with a low income. It's nice to see how motivate you are to achieve your goals and dreams. Keep working hard! :)

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